Validation, Recognition & Love
Situation:
- A deep, mostly subconscious and intense need, to be validated, recognized and loved.
- This drives and takes hold of one's dreams, ambitions and goals.
- Fundamentally a mirage, that one ends up chasing. A binding matrix that promises freedom.
The Why:
- A deep misbelief that one's very existence is only ratified by the recognition, validation and admiration one receives.
- Success is only when others agree and approve; behold! this is quite deep, indoctrinated and subconscious.
The Truths:
- One's own happiness and peace, aka contentment, can never be faked. No amount of validation from others can grant it.
- When life "happens", it is the oasis of life's simple joys that one seeks.
- Contentment and Success (of the present times) are two different things.
The Golden Tip:
- I am my own validation and recognition. Self-love is the true love.
What to do next:
- Just try and remember two instances or happenings in your past that brings a true smile in your face when you think about it. Dwell on the authentic feeling behind the smile.
How:
- An unfailing way: Examine your childhood memories of wholehearted laughter and merry.
- You were your validation; you were your recognition; you embodied self-love.
- Start reliving it
- But is it possible?
Let's discuss, add your comments... :)